Save the Dates vs. Invitations: What You Actually Need to Know
If you are knee-deep in wedding planning, chances are you have already wondered about Save the Dates vs. Invitations and whether you truly need both. Honestly, this question comes up all the time when I am designing stationery for couples, and it makes sense. There is so much information out there, and it can start to feel like there are strict rules you have to follow. The good news is that there is plenty of flexibility, and you get to decide what works best for your day!
So let’s slow things down and walk through the difference between Save the Dates vs. Invitations in a way that actually feels helpful.
What Are Save the Dates?
Save the dates are exactly what they sound like. They are a heads-up for your guests that your wedding date is officially happening, even if all the details are not finalized yet. Typically, save the dates go out about six to eight months in advance. However, they can go out even earlier if you are planning a destination wedding or if a large portion of your guest list will need to travel.
Because of this, save the dates are meant to help guests start planning ahead. For example, they give people time to think about flights, hotels, childcare, and time off work. I always suggest having your hotel room block secured and your wedding website live before sending them. That way, guests can immediately find helpful travel information and feel taken care of from the start.
From a design perspective, save the dates are often more relaxed and playful. They set the tone for your wedding without overwhelming anyone with logistics.
What Are Wedding Invitations?
Invitations are where all the important details live. This is when guests officially RSVP and get the full picture of your wedding day. Invitations usually go out about two to three months before the wedding. If you have a lot of traveling guests, sending them closer to the three or even four month mark can feel more comfortable.
Unlike save the dates, invitations include specifics like the ceremony location, start time, dress code, and RSVP deadline. This is also where your stationery can really shine, especially if you love thoughtful paper details and cohesive design.
I have seen guests get genuinely excited when invitations arrive because it suddenly feels real. The wedding is right around the corner!
Do You Have to Follow These Rules?
Here is the most important thing to remember. You do not have to follow these rules at all. Your wedding is what YOU make it. If a traditional timeline stresses you out, it is completely okay to adjust it. Some couples skip save the dates altogether. Others send invitations earlier than expected. What matters most is what feels right for your day and your comfort level.
At the end of the day, Save the Dates vs. Invitations is less about rigid etiquette and more about clear communication with the people you love.
stephanie gould | custom wedding invitation designs
If you are ready to create custom wedding invitations that feel intentional, personal, and totally you, I would love to help! Reach out to work together on a stationery suite that fits your vision and your timeline perfectly.